What kind of slave does a Femdom Mistress want?

This is a very common question that many come across over the internet. The main reason behind people asking this is because there is a statistical mismatch between:

The number of Women who want to dominate men

vs

The number of men who want to be dominated by Women.

Men are desperately looking for a Mistress to dominate them. Mistresses who will treat them like a worthless worm and who will keep them locked for the next 75 years. Well, it is high time for men to start thinking from their brains instead of their penis and try to learn the basics.

What does a Female Led Relationship mean? It means a Female-centric relationship where the male makes efforts to make his Dom’s life easy. Does not sound that complicated, right? The complications are caused by the Porn videos, FLR erotica and the Femdom captions that are spread across the internet! People go to the internet to learn more about FLR and all they get is tons of content filled with impractical and hypothetical fantasies that one cannot realistically fulfill in his/her relationship. (This is one of the reasons I started this blog, to make people’s lives easier)

The fantasies that you have made up in your mind will naturally become your expectations in the Female Led Relationship that you will get into. This means that if you fantasize about pegging or CBT, for example, you will naturally expect your Mistress to perform such kinks on you. This does not sound right.

Kinks should be eased into the relationship with time. Moreover, kinks should not make the foundation of a female led relationship. Women are kinky. They are more kinky than one can think. But they are kinky only when they are emotionally fulfilled. For example, once she realizes how much more focused you are on her when you are in a cage, She would herself want to keep you in the cage for longer durations, since it makes her life easier. Another example is that once she sees how eager you are to keep her sexual needs above yours, she will automatically start taking charge in bed.

You don’t need to begin the relationship with the fantasies that are there in your mind, you need to just simply implement the basics and the rest will happen itself. Obviously, you cannot ignore the communication factor if you want to explore new things. Sharing your fantasies is necessary to give direction to the relationship.

An FLR is led by a woman who has a strong and independent mindset. She would DEFINITELY NOT want a partner who is weak and behaves like a miserable man all the time.

She would want someone who will help her become more successful and add value to Her life.

She would want someone who does not use her time to fulfill his fantasies, but rather shares her workload and provides her with extra time for new affairs she wants to explore. That is why men doing chores is a normal part of a Female Led Relationship as this gives the Head of Household extra time which she can utilize for more productive purposes, or maybe just relaxing from an already hectic schedule.

A common mistake that men make while initiating Femdom relationship is that they approach women by saying that “I am a worthless piece of shit who wants to be spanked, dominated and kept under your heels.” No! No strong Woman wants to dominate a man who can be easily dominated. This does not mean that you give her a hard time when she tries to dominate you. This means that you should communicate your fantasies but let her dominate you at her own pace. Don’t start to act extra submissive just to pace up things.

Strong Women like to feel the power of dominating masculine men. You must have seen many bloggers and influencers on social media who look like ‘Goddesses’ have a masculine and strong man as their partner, who treats Her like a Queen. Those are the women who are successful in life or are chasing success, women with dreams and goals who have chosen a partner who is strong enough to protect them, intellectual enough to help solve their problems, supportive enough to let them lead and submissive enough to serve them like a Deity. Imagine if they had a needy partner who wanted to get treated like a worm 24/7. She would leave such a man at the very first instance. A Dominant woman needs a strong and intelligent man who is submissive to her.

You cannot lay the foundation of your entire relationship just on these fantasies. As I always say, the base of a long-term FLR is Respect, Communication, Trust and Honesty. Be a man you would want your Goddess to have. Be a man that you feel your Goddess deserves. She definitely does not deserve a “Worthless Man”. Be a man that She can never find. Be better than any man who is out there looking for a strong, independent. intelligent and Dominant Goddess like yours.

Happy FLR!