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Wrapped Around Your Finger, and the twist in its last verse
The Police’s 1983 single sounds like surrender. Listen to the end and it is a plan to turn the tables.
From The Police on YouTube: Wrapped Around Your Finger, The Police (1983), Fri 15 Jul 1983
The Police released Wrapped Around Your Finger in 1983, on Synchronicity, with a black and white video of Sting moving through a maze of candles. The title says what every devoted man already knows: you belong to her, and you can feel the ring.
The verses tell a different story. The singer arrives as the apprentice, spellbound, and spends the song promising that one day the roles will turn and she will be the one held. It is surrender used as a tactic.
That is the line between a power struggle and a female-led relationship. In an FLR nobody is waiting to turn the tables. He is not biding his time. He has chosen where he stands, and the choosing is the whole point. Play it once for the sound, and once for the lesson.
Read the original at The Police on YouTube
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