How to public femdom?

“She took me to a mall. I was walking one step behind her, as I usually do. After she was done with all the shopping, surprisingly, we entered a lingerie shop even though she had already purchased what she needed. She picked up a bra and held it against my chest as if she wanted to check how it would look on me. I did not do anything as she is my Mistress. There was a group of 3 girls who started giggling. The salesgirl there passed a wicked smile to my Mistress as she got a hint of what was happening. My Mistress asked the salesgirl to bring something that would look good on me and we three went towards the changing room. There she ordered me to take off my pants so that the panties I was wearing would get exposed. The salesgirl and Mistress laughed at me. She even told her that I was locked in a cage and…”

If you think that the above story is something that happens in reality, I’m sorry. It’s all in the fantasy world. Even if it were to happen with you, I am pretty sure that you would be hesitant and reluctant to comply with the circumstances rather than enjoying them. These things only feel good if they are consensual. There is a reason why HARD LIMITS exist.

I would repeat, THERE CANNOT BE A FEMALE LED RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT CONSENT! Even if you find a couple where she dominates her man publicly, it has to be consensual to sustain in the long term.

WHAT IS PUBLIC FEMDOM

Most couples in an FLR are staying behind the curtains. They practice this dynamic in private and try to withhold any activity that may hint towards this dynamic in front of other people. However, if you both want, you can take your FLR to the next step by breaking these barriers and behave as a Dom/sub even in public. The relationship where you She dominates you quite evidently in public, you can refer it to as Public Femdom. The degree to which She can dominate publicly might vary from one relationship to another.

There might be a man who is comfortable to be treated like a dog and put a collar around his neck in public while another man would not be comfortable even with the idea of it.

How to Dominate him publicly?

There are subtle ways where you can dominate him publicly while appearing as a completely normal (by normal I mean vanilla/traditional. Femdom is completely normal as well) couple. I am presenting some of the ideas of a public Female Led Relationship below:

Asking him to massage you on a beach. Applying sunscreen on your body.
Asking him to kiss you all over your body on a beach, including your feet.
This is one of my most memorable ones. We once purchased movie tickets for two seats that were not adjacent but front and back just because the Dom wanted to place her feet on the front seat while watching a movie and wanted to make him feel submissive the whole time.
Asking him to Propose on his Knee during marriage.
You can order for both of you while you are on a date or eating outside.
Make him carry your bags.
He has to open all the doors for you.
Make subtle remarks that only you both understand like “We both never fight. We are always able to arrive at a common conclusion real quick”. Only you two know that her conclusion is the final conclusion! How turning on!

Another example – “We both never fight or argue, it is our little communication secret!”

When your guests arrive, you can attend the guests while he can take care of serving them and do the needful.
Ask him to tie your shoelaces or adjust your heels in public.
Try makeup testers on his hands rather than your own.
Make him drive you and your friends/ relatives around the city whenever needed.
He can introduce you like – “She is my Queen, Sana.”

Many of these things are actually what a Gentleman should do in general. It is the intention and thoughts in your mind that make it kinky. This brings me to my next point that Public Femdom is not just some kinky play. It is much more than that. Publicly submitting to you signifies his true DEVOTION, COMMITMENT and LOVE towards you. It is a very strong mark of your OWNERSHIP. Only a man with extraordinary COURAGE will be truly able to serve his Queen publicly. Most men have so fragile masculinity that they would disagree with such a dynamic. So if your man agrees to consensual public Femdom, you have truly found one of the rarest breeds. Congratulations to you.

I hope you get an idea of how you can dominate him publicly. I humbly request you to come out of your fantasy world and try to build a realistic dynamic. It is one thing to dream about a fantasy but a totally different thing to actually live it. The most important thing is communication. Discuss –

What is the thing that you are totally willing to try?
What is something that you are totally uncomfortable with?
Do you actually want to disclose your dynamic or just want to be kinky in public?
What is the safe word?
What is your hard limit?
What should he call you in public?

And so on.

This article should be helpful enough to think on this topic a little further and in a mature way. Feel free to come up with any questions you may have.

Happy Dominating all the Queens and Happy serving their knights!