Does being led make a man less of a man? A reader says it takes more

A post on r/flrindia this month took on the question every man in an FLR hears sooner or later: does it make him less of a man? His answer was no, and his reasons are worth passing on.

Giving up control willingly, he wrote, takes security, not weakness. Serving his partner has made him more attentive, more loyal and more committed to the relationship. For him it has nothing to do with humiliation; it is about devotion, and about being honest with the person he loves.

The replies took the same line: a confident man knows what he wants and does not let other people’s opinions decide it for him. It matches what our own quiz has shown for a long time. Most of the men who take it say being led costs them no masculinity at all.