It is a widely accepted fact that men think through their penises. In the Femdom world, most women embark on this beautiful journey of a Female Led Relationship by controlling their man’s tool. Having control of their man’s most intimate and most sensitive body part is a powerful gesture to demonstrate their dominance.
Taking control of the penis is a strong gesture but it is not limited to caging it. Your man needs to understand that FLR means total control. He needs to understand that sex is all about your preferences and satisfaction. He needs to understand that your choices matter more than anything else. Here is a list of easy yet powerful ideas that you can incorporate during sex to reinstate your dominance and rule him (and sex) like a Queen:
1. Learn to say No –
If you are converting from a traditional (or vanilla) relationship to an FLR, it can be tough to take control of your sex life. Why? Because there would have been times when you did not want to have sex but had it anyway just to satisfy your man. In a Female Led Relationship, sex is under your control. You have it only when you want it.
Your man would find it really dominating when you refuse to have sex when he wants because he is habitual to have it his way and whenever he desires. I’m not at all implying that you need to refuse him every time to make him feel submissive but you need to understand that your wish matters more than his. Saying NO when you do not want it clearly shows him that You’re the Dominant and he is the submissive. He needs to respect your decision. Moreover, he should be available to have sex whenever you want.
2. Control his speed –
Every individual has different preferences during sex, regardless of gender. Your man might want to have slow and steady strokes whereas you might want him to go faster. Your preferences can even vary during a single intercourse session. You might want to start slow and then you might want him to go in and out like a jackhammer. It all depends on your preferences.
There will be instances when he wants to go at a different speed than what you want. That’s when you need to show him that who is in charge. He will have to go as per your preferences without a second thought. That’s what FLR means. You are the leader and he has to put you first in every instance, even if it means putting his physical satisfaction on the back seat. Controlling his speed might not sound very intriguing at first, but it surely has a very strong implication on a mental level. He is shown that sex is all about you and is purely for your satisfaction.
Obviously, if you want you can reward him later on, but you have shown him, very subtly, who is in control.
3. Control his thrust –
Thrust refers to the power he is putting in each stroke. When you tell him that you want to have rough sex, it means you are asking him to stroke more powerfully. Controlling his thrust and telling him how to thrust is a very powerful way of showing your dominance.
The head of a penis is very sensitive and every man has a default way of thrusting so that it provides them maximum satisfaction. But you may want it your way. For example, he might like fast and rough thrusts while you prefer slow and deep thrusts. Now, since sex is as per your needs and demands, he has to prioritize your satisfaction above his by thrusting in the way you want. He is reminded of who is actually in-charge in the relationship.
4. Stop him –
Men are programmed to cum as soon as possible whereas Women are programmed to enjoy longer in bed. In a traditional relationship, usually the focus is on the man’s needs, and sex ends when he ejaculates.
But in a Femdom relationship, you can instruct him to inform when he is about to come. You can tell him to stop so that he gets a breather and you both can continue longer. You can do this endlessly (called edging), till the time you are satisfied and you can even deny him at the end (wicked smile). He might have wanted to cum as soon as possible, but poor him, he has a Queen who wants things Her way.
5. Have sessions just for you –
Having sessions just for you means that you are the only one who is getting physically satisfied. I say physically because your man may get mental satisfaction by pleasing you. Such sessions strongly imply that your man gets satisfied in the relationship only when you want him to be satisfied. It also implies that he should find his satisfaction in yours. These sessions imply that you are in control of the sex life and he needs to act accordingly.
These are intercourse sessions that are solely focused on you. You might want to begin with a back or a foot massage. You may want him to kiss particular parts of your body. You may want him soft & gentle or rough & wild. You may just want oral, PIV or just foreplay. Direct him to act as per your needs, be the only one satisfied and exert your dominance!
6. Orgasm control –
I briefly mentioned this above but let’s throw a little more light at it. Orgasm control is not just limited to denying him. It is surely fun to deny him masturbation and to not let him cum during intimate sessions. But the purview of orgasm control also expands to ruining his orgasms.
This way he gets to ejaculate without an orgasm. Your man would be jerking off and having orgasms whenever he would have wanted since his teenage but now, in a Female Led Relationship, he is shown that there is someone Superior, his Mistress, who actually owns his cock and his orgasms.
7. Become an initiator –
This might not be for everyone but some might like it. You can totally seize his right to initiate sex. He should not be allowed to begin sex in any way unless you want him to. You have the ultimate power to the sex life in your relationship and you both get intimate only when you initiate it.
This removes any kind of pressure that you might have in your relationship regarding your sex life. You now have no expectations to fulfill. Seizing his right to even initiate sex and having sex only when you want clearly indicates your dominance and control over him.
Well, this was my brief list of ideas to exert your dominance. I hope you got the point I am trying to make here. Your Dominance lies in small gestures and activities. Dominance and Love are similar – they are hidden in little things rather than one-time big things.
Happy Domination!
