We all have been talking about slave training in Female Led Relationships. We have been searching for articles and forums to understand “How to train your slave?”
Men have been fantasizing about being well trained by their wives/girlfriends and making their wives more dominant. But what actually is a well-trained slave?
Let’s begin with what it is not! (and this is very important to know!)
Busting the Myth
Men look at other men in videos online and see a pathetic slave on a leash sitting naked beside his Mistress’s throne while she smokes a cigarette. They also read about wives locking their husbands in animal cages in a dark room and passing them food and water from between the bars every few hours.
There are lesser extreme examples as well but what such images portray in the mind of a man is that being well-trained is associated with a pathetic loser who is exploited by his Mistress.
In his mind, he believes that a brainless, spineless and a thoughtless man is a good submissive. When such men actually get into a Female Led Relationship, they realize that they are not feeling brainless. They are getting their own thoughts. They are not blindly following the orders of their Dom. They are even getting feelings of rebel. This is when they start looking for hypnosis files online.
Why? Because they want to feel brainwashed for their Doms. They want to feel helpless and lost in submission. They even start fantasizing that their Dom will daily brainwash them into submission by convincing him that he is a pathetic loser.
When their Doms do not play psychological games with them, they feel less dominated. They feel as if their Dom is not doing something right. Why? All because they repeatedly saw a pathetic man across various platforms, websites and erotica which instilled an image about how submission should look like.
Then they start looking for ways to make their wives more dominant and they even start topping from the bottom. This could be very destructive.
What is a well-trained slave?
Every woman’s dominant desires would be different. Some would be a gentle Dom, some could be hardcore BDSM enthusiasts, some could be sadists, some could be masochists, some might like extreme control, others might prefer limited control.
There is no perfect definition of a well-trained slave.
Just as there is no “one size fits all”, similarly there is no “one-slave fits all”.
Like any other relationship, a Female Led Relationship has to be evolved and developed by the couple. They have to figure out the specifics.
A well-trained submissive is someone who has been shaped as per the needs, desires and requirements of his Dom. It might not be the answer that you expected but it is the most appropriate answer to this question.
A well-trained submissive is a man who is perfect for his Dom.
For example, I need a submissive man who obeys instantly, but is not proactive. I personally like a man to wait for my orders rather than anticipating my needs. I would need a man who keeps the house clean and tidy, but as per my preferences. I want him to be available for me but make efforts only when I order him to.
Now, if a proactive man who is great at home science comes to submit to me, he would not be a well-trained submissive for me. He might look great to other women, but I would need to shape and mould him before I can call him well-trained.
He is an efficient candidate for slavery but he is not well-trained!
You should understand by now that being well-trained is subjective.
Common desirable qualities across all submissive men
A well trained submissive man will differ from Dom to Dom and there is no one perfect definition. However, there are some qualities that might be preferred by almost all women such as good communication, hygiene, etc. but these qualities alone cannot qualify you as a well-trained submissive man.
Moreover, these qualities could have further sub-preferences, which again makes these highly personalized, such as, some might prefer vocal communication about vulnerable feelings whereas others might prefer text messages for such intimate talks.
Hygiene preferences could also differ. Some might prefer a man who keeps himself clean shaved on all body parts whereas other might just prefer a man who keeps himself hygienic along with his body hair.
My point is, even if there might be an overlap of certain qualities across all well-trained submissive men, still those qualities would need a personal touch before they can fit a Dom’s needs.
Conclusion
Being well-trained is not just about having a number of skills and qualities. It is about having flexibility to shape and mould those qualities as per the desires of Dom.
A well-trained submissive man can be called well-trained only when his Mistress calls him well-trained because she is the one for whom he is getting trained for.
Dom women might also want to read – “The Bible for Establishing Tailor Made Female Led Relationship!”
