What Is a Submissive Man?
A submissive man is someone who consensually and consciously chooses to place authority, leadership and decision-making power in the hands of his Mistress. A submissive man retains autonomy, responsibility, and agency, and submits by choice, not coercion.
This is important, so read it slowly.
Submission does not mean loss of autonomy.
It does not mean lack of responsibility.
And it definitely does not mean coercion.
A submissive man submits by choice.
He retains agency. He retains accountability. He retains the ability to think, decide, and act. What he gives up—willingly—is control, in service of a woman he chooses to serve.
Read : What is a Female Led Relationship?
The Core Qualities of a Submissive Man
At its heart, submission is simple. It is not mystical. It is not complicated. It is not about theatrics.
A submissive man:
- Keeps his Mistress’s needs above his own
- Has a deeply service-oriented mindset
- Is trustworthy and loyal
- Is obedient—not blindly, but consciously
- Is eager to serve
- Genuinely desires to please
Nothing fancy. Nothing performative. Just devotion expressed through consistent action.
Read : Be a SMART Submissive
How Does a Man Actually Become Submissive?
Let me ask you something.
Do you remember being in school and having a crush?
Of course you do.
You would do anything to spend time with her.
You cancelled your football plans just to walk her home.
You ate food you didn’t even like because she liked it.
You listened to music you didn’t enjoy—just because she enjoyed it.
You did stupid things if she asked, without even questioning why.
And most importantly—you were careful.
You didn’t want to upset her.
You didn’t want to offend her.
You didn’t want to cross any boundaries.
You moulded yourself around her likes and dislikes because pleasing her made you happy.
That, right there, is submission.
A submissive man is madly in love with his Mistress—the same way you were madly in love with your school crush. Add maturity. Add emotional intelligence. Add adult responsibility.
That’s it.
See? Becoming submissive isn’t that complicated.
Where Do Men Actually Struggle?
This is where reality hits.
Most men first discover FLR through porn, erotic forums, erotic fiction, and yes, more porn. (Fantasy vs Reality in FLR)
They start fantasizing about a cruel Mistress who:
- Controls his dick
- Teases and Denies him (Read : Importance of T&D in Male Chastity)
- Keeps him locked in chastity
- Slaps him, whips him, pisses on him
- Cucks him
- Uses him purely for her sexual amusement
And here’s the problem.
They fantasize so deeply that they forget one crucial truth:
A real Mistress has her own fantasies and her own persona.
And her fantasies may look nothing like his.
Instead of adapting, many men get stuck. They start believing they can only submit if the woman behaves in a very specific way—strict, cruel, humiliating, sexually aggressive.
If she isn’t constantly locking him, punishing him, or controlling his dick, he believes he “can’t submit.”
That belief is wrong.
The Real Test of Submission
The hardest part of FLR—especially in the beginning—is letting go of your fantasies.
Yes, letting go. And then, serving a woman who might be completely different from the woman in your head.
Serving that woman devotionally is the true test of your submission.
Because now, you’re not following your fantasy Dom’s style of domination.
You’re adapting to (real) her style.
You already know how to do this.
You did it as a teenager for your crush, remember?
The difference is—you’re an adult now. And being stupid takes more effort.
All you have to do is be madly in love with your Dom, worship the ground she walks on, and follow her like a puppy without expectation of a treat!
Why “Without Expectation” Matters So Much
This part is crucial. Read it carefully.
If you serve a woman expecting a reward, that is transactional service, not devotional service. (Read : Serving a Dom is a privilege)
Read that again.
No, seriously. Read it again. I am waiting.
Good.
Now listen—I agree with you. Expectation is human. Wanting appreciation is natural.
But here’s the truth:
If you’ve chosen the right Mistress, she will reward you.
Not because she has to.
Not because you earned it.
But because she wants to.
Just like you cannot make every woman on the street your wife, you cannot make every woman who claims to be dominant your Mistress.
You have to choose wisely and carefully.
Choice matters.
Serve her because you want to serve her.
Serve her because serving her fulfils you.
And when she rewards you—sexually, emotionally, psychologically—it will feel deeper than anything you ever fantasized about.
This is Miss Sana’s guarantee.
A Final Word
I haven’t even touched on detailed traits, advanced psychology, or how to become the perfect submissive—and this article is already long. So let’s end it here for now.
So let this be a reminder.
Submission is not about fantasy.
It is about adaptation.
It is about devotion.
It is about service without expectation.
That is the psychological journey every submissive man must face.
Keep serving 😊